This article is for managers, or people who want to be in management.
When I start coaching a manager, I ask them what a really good manager does. They inevitably tell me that good managers put out fires, answer questions, and remove obstacles that get in their employees way. “WRONG!” I tell them. Great coaching huh? (more…)
Its cliche for a business owner to say that his employees are the company’s greatest asset. But it’s extremely rare for an owner to actually act that way.
In fact, many leaders don’t have a clue when it comes to building a culture and a company that fosters loyalty among their best employees. (more…)
The people I love, will leave me.
That was the lesson I learned as a kid growing up through two divorces. I loved my dad, John. He left. I loved my adopted dad, Reid. He left. Now as an adult, I know that it wasn’t that simple. There were a lot of variables. But as an 11 year old, it was exactly that simple. Love was dangerous.
I coped with this by building walls. I learned that if I didn’t get too attached to anybody, I wouldn’t get hurt. So that’s what I did. (more…)
As children, immediate consequences were a regular part of our lives. Step out of line at school and get detention. Step out of line at home, maybe you got grounded, maybe you got a smack. When I got busted, grounding was my typical punishment….although, my mom did introduce my butt to the wooden spoon a time or two when I got really out of hand.
It was the immediate, and sometimes painful feedback of those consequences that taught us what the rules were and made us take them seriously. And for the most part they worked.
But that’s not how it is as adults. (more…)
Who holds you accountable? If you’re like most people, the answer is nobody. Correct that, most people hold themselves accountable, which is just another way of saying nobody.
After seven years of leadership coaching, and 41 years of living, I’ve learned that human beings are very bad at holding themselves accountable to accomplishing long-term goals.
Here’s why: (more…)
Every December, millions of well intended people set New Year’s resolutions and then, every January, they promptly give up. According to Forbes only 8% of people actually accomplish one of their New Year’s resolutions. By the time this article was published, in the second week of January, over half of people have already quit. (more…)