The people I love, will leave me.
That was the lesson I learned as a kid growing up through two divorces. I loved my dad, John. He left. I loved my adopted dad, Reid. He left. Now as an adult, I know that it wasn’t that simple. There were a lot of variables. But as an 11 year old, it was exactly that simple. Love was dangerous.
I coped with this by building walls. I learned that if I didn’t get too attached to anybody, I wouldn’t get hurt. So that’s what I did. (more…)
This is one of my favorite stories about how perspective shapes our experiences and our world. I use it when someone is angry or frustrated at how others are treating them. It’s a great way to challenge someone to see that their attitude may be part of the problem…Enjoy (more…)
You don’t “discover” your life’s purpose.
It’s not like it’s buried somewhere and It’s up to you to Indiana Jones your way through the jungle to a trap-filled ruins to dig it up, dust it off and hold it above your head in triumph…BEHOLD! !
Purpose isn’t something outside of yourself that you have to be fortunate to stumble across.
Purpose is a choice.
You pick your purpose. (more…)
Who holds you accountable? If you’re like most people, the answer is nobody. Correct that, most people hold themselves accountable, which is just another way of saying nobody.
After seven years of leadership coaching, and 41 years of living, I’ve learned that human beings are very bad at holding themselves accountable to accomplishing long-term goals.
Here’s why: (more…)
Every December, millions of well intended people set New Year’s resolutions and then, every January, they promptly give up. According to Forbes only 8% of people actually accomplish one of their New Year’s resolutions. By the time this article was published, in the second week of January, over half of people have already quit. (more…)
Just about everything in life is a matter of perspective. You tend to see what you are looking for. So, if you expect the worst, you tend to get the worst. If you expect the best, you get the best. This is a short story I tell when someone is looking at things from a place of scarcity. (more…)