Better Get Clarity

Better Get Clarity

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective not the truth.” Marcus Aurelius

Rufus Miles Jr. was an assistant secretary under three different presidents. He is credited with Miles’ law which states: “Where you stand, depends on where you sit.” Your viewpoint depends on your values and your goals. (more…)

It’s Not About You

It’s Not About You

I met a local business owner for coffee and talked about him hiring me as a coach. He told me about his goals and he shared some of his biggest challenges and fears. He was pumped about starting coaching. We shook hands and I drove away with a clear expectation that he would call me to move forward.

Except, he didn’t call. So I called … nothing. I reached out three times over the next three weeks. No response. What went wrong I wondered? I thought he was in. I thought he wanted this. What did I do to screw it up? (more…)

Take All The Blame

Take All The Blame

In every relationship: professional and personal, there is a balance of power. In healthy relationships where we feel empowered, we are able to be our authentic selves. We can act with confident strength, we are able to speak up and address uncomfortable problems. We can demonstrate the vulnerability that let’s us do the right thing, even when it’s difficult. (more…)

The Common Denominator

The Common Denominator

In every problem in our lives, one thing is constant. Every time someone does us dirty or messes something up, every time some stupid system or rule gets changed and it affects us, one thing is constant. When our job prevents us from making a workout or eating right – when outside forces keep us from spending time with our family and doing what we want to in our lives, one thing is constant.  The constant is us. (more…)

Step Into The Ring

Step Into The Ring

Years ago, I was training for a mixed martial arts fight. I wasn’t a world beater, but I was a few years and a dozen fights into a professional fighting career in the minor leagues. I was preparing for a fight and a new guy showed up at the gym. Nice guy, good athlete, worked hard. He had good balance, wasn’t afraid to get in the mix, and this was his first go at organized training. He had been there a few weeks when he asked if I wanted to spar a few rounds. He told me he had never sparred before. (more…)