Indignance is a limited resource (Don’t waste yours)

Indignance is a limited resource (Don’t waste yours)

Can you believe the Republicans are trying to take away our civil rights?

Can you believe the Democrats are trying to stamp out religion?

Can you believe the UN is trying to govern what we do in the US of A?

Can you believe what THEY are trying to do to us?

I am so sick of these conversations. The people who get the most fired up about politics or current events are the same people who aren’t taking care of their own life. (more…)

How To Network If You Hate Networking

How To Network If You Hate Networking

If you avoid going to networking events even though you know they are good for your business, this article is for you.

Here’s a secret, I had a big problem as a self employed business owner who gets 100% of his new clients through word of mouth and referrals…I hated networking. I felt like a fraud; going to chamber of commerce mixers, rotary club meetings or other business networking events. The last thing I wanted to do was make small talk as I passed my business card out to a dozen people, hoping that they would hire me or send me business. (more…)

Why You Suck At Adapting To Change (And How to Get Better)

Why You Suck At Adapting To Change (And How to Get Better)

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, but the most adaptable.”
~Leon Megginson summarizing Charles Darwin’s book On the Origin of Species.

Your boss, whom you adore, leaves the company and is replaced by someone you don’t know.

Your wife tells you she’s leaving.

You lose your job.

Big changes that shake up our world are a regular, recurring part of life. So why is it so damn hard to respond quickly and move through the change? (more…)

5 Coping Mechanisms You Learned As A Kid That Make You A Worse Adult

5 Coping Mechanisms You Learned As A Kid That Make You A Worse Adult

The people I love, will leave me.

That was the lesson I learned as a kid growing up through two divorces. I loved my dad, John. He left. I loved my adopted dad, Reid. He left. Now as an adult, I know that it wasn’t that simple. There were a lot of variables. But as an 11 year old, it was exactly that simple. Love was dangerous.

I coped with this by building walls. I learned that if I didn’t get too attached to anybody, I wouldn’t get hurt. So that’s what I did. (more…)